Don’t Derail, Prevail

When something goes wrong or breaks down, we have two choices, we can get rid of it or we can repair it. Unfortunately, we have developed into a throw-away society in large part due to technological advancements. When you need to use a new app, only to discover your computer or telephone Isn’t compatible because your operating system is too old, you really are held hostage, as the world advances around you. It is as though you are passed by until you go out and purchase a more current model of phone or computer. Don’t even get me started about the frustration of transferring everything over. It is planned obsolescence. You might begrudgingly be jumping through hoops and hating the expense it entails for the privilege, but sooner or later there is something you want to be able to access electronically that will have you saying OK I surrender. 

You might loose against the tech giants, but at least we are all subject to that same frustration and can commiserate together. When it isn’t technological in nature though, you get a lot more say in the matter. There are always things that can’t be fixed. As you look down at the cup that is on the floor in many pieces, you know that even with the best glue you have, it would take a miracle to be able to put it back together and be able to drink anything out of it again. 

When you take in your husbands favourite Ortlieb pannier bags to get the clip replaced for him, only to be told that can’t be fixed either, it gets annoying. Why can’t things be made so that they can easily be fixed? The small appliance repair person doesn’t even exist any longer. Is it any wonder then that our landfills are filling at alarming rates as we discard more and more. 

It’s easy then, for humans to be lured into believing that when things seem broken you walk away. It is where our mind goes, but on many levels we can train ourselves to change that thought. When your favourite warm top has developed a hole why not try to repair it first… I hear you saying I can’t sew, that might be true, but what better time to give it a go. You are going to throw the top out anyway, so if the repair doesn’t work you are still going to throw the thing away so you have nothing to loose. What if you are able to fix it? You can end up developing a new skill and still get to keep your favourite top. That’s what I call a result. 

That as you well know is a very simple example of fixing something. What if what you need to “fix” goes much deeper than that? What if you have somehow sabotaged your own health recovery efforts and now you want to do what technology has been teaching us for decades, you want to throw your efforts away? 

Before you do that, take a moment to pause and put things into perspective. Just because you were going to meet a friend to go swimming but then plans changed because something came up which meant you didn’t go, doesn’t mean you can’t reschedule. 

We can go a very long way towards achieving our goals just by our mindset. I am not kidding. Our mind is a force of nature. Our mind is rarely wrong. If we decide something isn’t going to work it is doomed from that moment on if we truly believe the outcome is predetermined. It’s like having our own crystal ball. We mentally can be pretty confident of any outcome.

 If we don’t make up our mind, if we allow our thoughts to be a little more forgiving perhaps, the world opens up so many more possibilities. Sure, you can be disappointed that you didn’t see your friend but let’s not get ahead of ourselves. Imagine what we can accomplish if we can harness our mindset for our personal growth rather than a catalyst for our defeat. 

We don’t have to walk away considering ourselves unable to succeed. Don’t buy into that! If we decide to accept that minor setbacks are just that, ‘minor’, then we are already looking at things more positively. From that positive place we can better strategize our next step. 

I personally don’t spend much time on social media finding out what everyone else is up to. I am doing my own thing. Whatever it is I want to fix rather than throw away whenever possible, and if my mindset is what needs fixing then that is what I am going to do. Maybe I need to try different approaches and that’s OK. There is almost always more than one route to get to our destination. 

As I age I am not something to throw away, I am an imperfect treasure but a treasure worth believing in even when we have allowed ourselves to slide a little. That was then and we get a new now with every breath we take. 

maria@pilotlighteffect.com 

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